Re: Bawling because I read a story of 13 yr old girl and her surgery, I can't do this
First of all, have a hug
There are a lot of horror-stories out there on the net. However, if you read through past posts here, you'll see that hundreds of us have been through the surgery and have come out smiling. Children are particularly resilient and often the whole thing is much harder on their parents!
The risk of very serious complications is extremely low. If you are worried, ask your daughter's surgeon for statistics. Minor complications happen more frequently, but they can be anything from an allergic reaction to dressings to constipation.
The tubes and things are standard things to help you breathe and pee and to give you fluids when you have surgery, they're nothing to worry about. And morphine is just a painkiller, it works well. The surgery is a big one so it would cause a lot of pain if it weren't controlled, but drugs like morphine mean that it doesn't have to be terrible.
It's good to be aware that there are a few unscrupulous people on the net, who are trying to profit from unproven "cures" for scoliosis. They seem to prefer to make out that surgery is extremely risky and dangerous rather than concentrating on showing how their treatment can genuinely work. Make sure that you seek info from honest and reliable sources, and ask your daughter's surgeon if you are worried about anything. It sounds like you really should do this, for your own peace of mind
37 years old, diagnosed with infantile idiopathic scoliosis at 6 months old with curves of 62(T) and 40(L) degrees. Casting and Milwaukee braces until surgery at 10 - ant release/pos fusion T1-T12, halo traction. Post op cast and then TLSO. Further surgery at 18 (ant release/pos fusion extended to L3 to include lumbar curve, costoplasty) and 25 (another costoplasty). Fusion extended to L4 at 33 (XLIF with 4 pedicle screws and two short rods). Pre-op curves: 76(T) and 70(L). Post-op curves: 45(T) and 35(L). Diagnosed with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome aged 34; scoliosis almost certainly due to this rather than being idiopathic.