Thread: i'm not alone
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Old 14th February 2013, 04:39 PM
freddie53 freddie53 is offline
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I apologise if I go on a bit. So I'm not alone, there are others like me out there, I don't get out much! Twenty years ago I was diagnosed with kyphosis, twenty years ago I was told by a specialist that there was nothing that could be done, I was told that surgery was reserved for only the most extreme cases and I simply didn't qualify. I saw two other specialists a couple of years later and was told the same thing. Life at school sucked, I guess you all understand where I'm coming from, the smirks, the whispering when you enter a room, being labelled the school hunchback, humiliated by other kids on a daily basis who seem to see your condition as some kind of source of amusement. Swimming classes were the worst, you've nowhere to hide. I lost focus, lost direction. For me twenty years on, my kyphosis has progressed, I'm now 1 inch shorter than when I was 18, some days the pain is so bad when I get home all I want to do is lie down, other days I'm ok. The worst part for me is the psychological damage, it eats away at you day by day, self loathing, self pity, why me. Reading some of the stories on this site about those lucky ones who've had surgery I feel so happy for you genuinely. My ex wife was ashamed to be seen with me in public, didn't want me to meet her friends in case they laughed at her for marrying a man with my deformity. My second wife said my kyphosis is getting worse, her exact words were 'your spine looks horrible, disgusting', she tends to speak without thinking sometimes. I live in the uk. Has the policy of the nhs changed towards only performing surgery on extreme cases? I'm planning to go and see my gp try and ge t referred to a specialist but I don't know if I will be wasting my time. I feel like if I don't get it sorted now, my condition will. deteriorate and i won't be able to move forward with my life, it's holding me back. My other question is with regard to work, how did your employers react to you requesting to take an extended period off work? Chris
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