View Full Version : All good things must come to an end

16th July 2009, 03:58 PM
Well, it had to happen...

I've been seeing a FANTASTIC physio for the past few months - she has done more to help me than any other physio I've seen. I'm not nearly as stiff as I was, I'm not getting the headaches from my head being off-centre, I'm not getting the vague shoulder ache and tightness (that apparently was caused by a rib being out of place). So every week after being with my physio,I've seen an improvement and its just been fantastic :D

But when I saw her last week, she said she couldn't do any more for me - she's given me exercises to do and I have to go back in a month or so to check that I haven't slipped back. So its just a case of trying to keep me stable, rather than make further improvements.

So at the end of all this, I'm still left with the original back/hip pain that was always my main problem :( It was silly of me I suppose, but when I was seeing improvements every week, part of me hoped that I would just keep getting better and better until one day I would have no pain at all. Completely unrealistic of course - and she never claimed she could 'cure' me, this was all in my head. So I can't help feeling a bit disappointed...

I know I need to think about the positive side of it - that she HAS made a difference - I don't have some of the additional aches and pains, and my back pain has maybe improved slightly (I find it very difficult to judge this - when I was feeling upbeat, I would have said it was a bit better, now I don't feel there is any change....this may all be in my head!)

One thing my physio did say might be worth me trying is something called 'Bodytalk' - has anyone ever heard of this? I did a google search for it and I have to say it sounds very New-Agey - all about 'synchronising your body's energy systems' (whatever that means!) Sounds a bit odd, but it might be worth a try - especially since I trust my physio.

Hmm, just feel a bit 'flat' now...like I've reached a dead end :disap:

Little Ali
16th July 2009, 04:22 PM
Oh Carol...I can completely empathise with so much of this!

I get on so well with my physio and he's helped me so much but I've also experienced feeling really 'flat' after appointments when I hear him teling me how things are and that he can't 'cure' me, although I never expected that in reality!

Now he's leaving and it's like the end of an 'era'. Like you, I trust him and I'm finding the idea of having to introduce myself to someone new and put my faith in them very scary! Sorry, I've gone on about myself :doh:

My point was, I can empathise :hug: I hope the Bodytalk helps!

16th July 2009, 04:42 PM
I too sympathise as you forge a real bond with someone who actually helps with your pain. Is there any chance you could pay now and again to see your physio privately? I know it's not an option for everyone!

I hope you still get good monthly sessions with her tho.

good luck for the future.

16th July 2009, 05:03 PM
Oh Carol, so sorry your physio has come to an end when you were feeling so positive.
Im sure positive feelings come when you feel like your 'doing' something about your pain, thats how its always been for me.
I remember when I was in my twenties I saw a private physio and was getting a little attatched when he told me there was nothing else he could do-I was gutted!
I hope you find some support in something else-ims ure you will.
Stay positive x

16th July 2009, 05:10 PM
Thanks for your words of support :) Yes Ali, I remember you saying about your physio leaving, so I know you understand! Actually its worse for you because my physio isn't going anywhere so at least I can still see her any time I feel the need to, so I should be grateful for that! You have to go through all that process of getting to know someone again (LOL, that makes it sound like going on a date, but you know what I mean!)

Burdle - this is a private physio I've been paying for myself (I've found the NHS ones to be pretty useless I'm afraid!). So yes, at least I have the option of being able to see her again. I'm actually quite impressed too that she told me not to come back for at least a month - she could easily have kept up the weekly appointments to get more money out of me, but she has been very honest in telling me thats as far as she can go with me. So I know she is fab, and I'm very lucky to have her. Its just my stupid fault for expecting the impossible!!

I maybe will look into this Bodytalk thing - she knows someone who is coming to do a session in September. http://www.bodytalksystem.com/

I'm very sceptical, but it can't do any harm I suppose!

16th July 2009, 10:41 PM
That's disappointing for you :( But maybe the benefits will continue and then get reinforced at your monthly appts? I hope so. Sounds like an honest person as well as a good physio and you can check in each month, so might not be too bad. Although when you have that hope that it is going to continue and sort it all out it is a bit of a let down, when you get told there's not much else they can do. :squeeze:

Had a look at the Bodyworks link and it mentioned they use 'tapping' along with other methods. Not sure if you've tried EFT? But it's basically needle free acupuncture :) and you can learn it very quickly and do it for yourself. Might be worth a look - http://www.emofree.com/ there's a free downloadable Manual on the Home page that guides you through it.

It's good you found such a helpful physio who's made a difference and it's not stupid to hope for the impossible! It's positive and that has to be good! :)

17th July 2009, 12:54 AM
Oh dear, I'm another one who can empathise with how it feels when physio comes to an end - I was gutted when mine said he had gone as far as he could with me as I kind of hoped it would just go on and on with me gaining more and more strength and function. Don't get me wrong, I got loads out of it and he even said that he had had the best results from me despite me having the longest fusion he'd worked with. But I found the withdrawal of support very distressing at the time, it was like losing a good friend :( At least you will still see this lady on a monthly basis but yes, I know how it feels to have unrealistic expectations and then come down to earth with a bump :(

17th July 2009, 11:25 AM
Cassie - thanks for the link. I know of someone who used EFT to help with anxiety and loss of confidence but I'd never heard of it being used to manage pain. But yes, it sounds quite similar to this Bodytalk my physio was talking about, so definitely worth trying.

Both seem to deal with the emotional side of pain - and that is something my physio is very much into. She is very into the holistic approach of treating the whole person, not just particular parts of the body!

I actually think my sessions with her have been as much about my emotional state as my physical state - a combination of counselling and physical therapy in one session! So I've been talking to her about the ongoing emotional upset with my ex boyfriend and she thinks this is hampering my body's ability to deal with the physical issues. I'm sure she is right - I've said many times before that my pain is always worse when I'm upset or stressed. So I'm definitely going to look into one of these techniques to see if I can address that side of it.

Gilly - yes, that sounds like you had exactly the same experience! I suppose the danger is we begin to rely on physios too much and then feel we can't survive on our own. So it will probably be good for me to have a break from seeing her and start managing on my own, instead of relying on her too much. And I have to think how lucky I am to have found her - she is a lovely, caring human being, as well as being a very skilled therapist :)

I don't know what I'd do without all you lovely people to share things like this with! Thanks xx

17th July 2009, 12:10 PM
Bit of a rant this , I know... but what is wrong with carrying on seeing a physio, if the support is both emotional and physical. If you are paying and the therapist and you both understand the boundaries and expectations why can't you carry on indefinitely. If the argument is that you will become dependent well so what. You have a scoliosis and you have pain! Plenty of people out there rely on specific people for help and support whether it is friends, family or therapists for all sorts of things - we're probably all dependent on somthing at some point in our lives and nothing is forever. If you have found a special physio and seeing them helps you get on with your life at that time what reason should they give for asking you to stop going? The only one I can think of is that they simply havn't got room in their appointment schedule. Other than that surely there is something to be gained on both sides. Especially as more and more we are realising that pain is closely affected by our emotional state.

Little Ali
17th July 2009, 05:00 PM
I actually think my sessions with her have been as much about my emotional state as my physical state - a combination of counselling and physical therapy in one session!

Yes...got it in one!! They become like friends we can confide in don't they?

Amazed Jean
17th July 2009, 08:03 PM
Really makes you feel powerless doesn't it? I have had three doctors (GPs) in a row that quit practicing and closed their practices. Leaves me with no one each time and all the work of finding a new one. I get attached because I see them so often and I like the office staff and nurses etc. knowing who I am when I call in, so it's frustrating when they leave. Currently I don't have a GP but I keep in once year contact with my Lung Specialist (or more if I need him.) I think I can always call my Gyn doctor too but right now with this MRSA mess I'm not sure who to trust. I guess we have to just adjust to change and hope for the best but it is maddening!